24 Hours

One hour cooking and one hour cleaning in the morning.
One hour cooking and one hour cleaning in the evening.
This is the time i will be in kitchen,
In between one hour of cleaning the house.

Total 5 hours.
One hour in the morning for bathing,reading and walking with my son
One hour in the evening for reading and walking with my son

Total 2 hours

Morning 6 o clock
Night 11 o clock

Total 7 hours

Remaining 10 hours

House Maid

Im feeling like a housemaid.

Long time trouble

A 30 year old woman, who happens to be my neighbour comes to my house everyday. She comes during a particular time everyday, and be in my house for about 1 hour 15 min.

I wake up at 8 o clock most of the time. As soon as i wake up, i dont want to go to the kitchen and cook. I want to spend some time browsing or studying, drinking coffee.My hubby goes to office at 7 o clock. I wake up late because i used to be awake till 12 or 1 o clock, in the night as my 3 year old son used to sleep by 11.30.I want to keep myself awake till then and after he sleeps i will not be able to sleep as i was holding it for a long time and i want some time in the night for me and only me, with my husband and son sleeping. 

Coming back to the morning,  I wake up at 8 and my neighbour comes around 9.45. During the in between time,I talk to my mom, give milk and bread to my son, clean him after his bowel movements, i go to pee. The big mistake that has become a habit and is hard to break is, most of the times i dont wash vessels, wipe the counter tops, sweep the kitchen, before going to bed. Instead, i do read something or just relax.As a result of which ,all those work  pile up in the morning before i start cooking. And  I feel it as great shame, when someone comes to my house, when it is not clean.

My husband comes around 11, so i start cooking at 9.45.There are two eyes that stare at me when i cook, following all my movements. 

She goes home and talks about that, i dont wash vessels, dont cook heavy meals, dont take a good care of my son.

The worst thing is she discusses about a serial's yesterday, today , tomorrow and one year earlier and later sometimes, complains about her husband and life sometimes.

what is the solution to this problem?

Firstly, its a good oppurtunity for you to achieve greater standards in keeping your home a wonderful place,with continuous improvement everyday. You should be an example to others hereafter. That will improve your self esteem and help you in achieving in other tasks of life, as well.

Be assertive, in saying that you dont wantto discuss about serials.

You can say like, im better than you, that though i watch serials, i dont put it in my mind and discuss like you.

When she complains about life, talk something positive, and never leta downer to put you dowm, mentally.,

In simple you have a lot of things to achieve. Take a 30 day challenge for

1. Perfect organised and clean house

2. Read to your son, everyday

3. Complete your exam

4. Complete reading 5 books
5. Complte basic writing course

Until then dont talk about her.

Writing start date

Chapathi texture comes good when i turn it sooner. It comes soft, in that case. Whereas if i give considerable amount of time,it becomes brittle.

My son's dad and me got into a fight,so he was telling his dad to call me.
when i was talking loudly to his dad, he was also pretendding to shout at me back and immediately, he told sorry,its ok. I dont want to allow him to watch tv/laptops in the evening. One reason is i want him to do something useful in the evening, because during the daytime he wants to watch tv.
and he my dear chellam will not allow me to touch the laptop, whenever i take it.


I think something and talk to my husband, whenever he is at home. Since he does not respond to it properly and he is considering it a disturbance, i have find out some constructive methods to let out my thoughts. I dont want to block any of my thoughts. Because i may burst out with all those, or i will chose some destructive ways to let out those. Still Im feeling lonely because it is not like the actual talking with someone you love and wat to spend time with. But, I will move on with that,with some other distant hopes like i will become a writer one day, publish a book and tell it to my husband, its because of you.I will be way ahead of him in my verbal skills. I will be doing my technical upgradation also side by side, and will prove my worth in that field as well.I want to be excellent in verbal and to at a better level in my technical knowledge also.

I will write ever single day and read books. This will the only way to reach my goal.If i talk and sh are with my husband, i may not be able to write.so that is an added avantage.

Monotonous work

Problem 1 : Doing monotonous work everyday is really difficult. Particularly when you are not paid for it and you are not appreciated or even recognised  for what you do everyday.

Solution : Come on, do your monotonous work no harm, your work makes your family,really a family.
Even when you are not appreciated,never mind. Whatever your mind yearns to do, like gain knowledge and never become stagnant, help yourself to become productive.. do all that. Finish off all your work fatafat.. and start doing the work that you consider is more productive and  will not make you stagnant. You will have no time left to wait for appreciation. You will not feel down anymore.